Dzigar Kongtrul Rinpoche

The Basis of Happiness: Confronting the Authority Within

There’s no doubt that each of us wants to be happy; but happiness doesn’t come on demand. Not many people actually believe that “happiness is freedom from the suffering that our mind creates.” Even though we may want it, we won’t get this kind of happiness or peace on demand, by willing it or trying …

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Bearing Chyoshe: Experiencing Sadness as Freedom

When we feel negative feelings or aggression towards others, if we look at our mind honestly and very openly, we will discover that those feelings are nothing other than our own attachments manifesting. Consider this: whomever we think is close to us now, and for whom we have warm feelings toward now, all these relations …

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Taking Refuge in the Sangha: The Training Ground for Harmony with the World

In spiritual communities, just as in society, there are different views, different personalities, and so conflicts do occur. Reflecting on this fact, and how harmony within the sangha leads to harmony within society, maybe we can address how to work with those examples. First to say, as much as we are American, as much as …

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Developing Good Heart: Part 3-Avoiding Perfectionism, Not Defending Our Weaknesses

We must ask ourselves, “What is my weakness?” If it is attachment, then admit, “Yes, it’s attachment,” without defending that. If it’s aggression, then, yes, it’s aggression, and not defending one’s aggression. If it’s jealousy, then, yes, it’s jealousy, again not defending one’s jealousy. If it’s stupidity, yes, it’s stupidity without coming to the defense …

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Developing Good Heart: Part 2: Being Addicted to Emotions

When you say “Oh, I really don’t think this person would do something that negative; I trust this person,” what are you saying? Are you saying this person will always have just one particular stream of feelings and never change those feelings whatsoever? No. If that person had one stream of feelings all the time, …

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Working with Attachments: Part 2- The Path from Recognition to Rejoicing

Again, you can certainly continue your relationships, your friendships, and whatever you cherish as important in your life, just don’t let yourself become so swallowed up by them that you behave like a roller coaster, allowing the associated emotions to make you erratic and unstable. When you become like a roller coaster, at some point …

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