Dzigar Kongtrul Rinpoche

Developing Good Heart: Part 3-Avoiding Perfectionism, Not Defending Our Weaknesses

We must ask ourselves, “What is my weakness?” If it is attachment, then admit, “Yes, it’s attachment,” without defending that. If it’s aggression, then, yes, it’s aggression, and not defending one’s aggression. If it’s jealousy, then, yes, it’s jealousy, again not defending one’s jealousy. If it’s stupidity, yes, it’s stupidity without coming to the defense […]

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Developing Good Heart: Part 2: Being Addicted to Emotions

When you say “Oh, I really don’t think this person would do something that negative; I trust this person,” what are you saying? Are you saying this person will always have just one particular stream of feelings and never change those feelings whatsoever? No. If that person had one stream of feelings all the time,

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Developing Good Heart: Part One -Clarity versus Emotions

Everyone knows how important it is to establish a good heart. A good heart is the only thing that is truly worthy, not only of helping others, but also of sustaining oneself in a state of happiness, joy and contentment. Yet it often seems there is a conflict inwardly. Though people know the value of

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Working with Attachments: Part 2- The Path from Recognition to Rejoicing

Again, you can certainly continue your relationships, your friendships, and whatever you cherish as important in your life, just don’t let yourself become so swallowed up by them that you behave like a roller coaster, allowing the associated emotions to make you erratic and unstable. When you become like a roller coaster, at some point

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Training In Self-Awareness: Step 3 – Letting Go and Developing Authentic Presence

As we discussed earlier, when speaking of the ego, and developing self-awareness of the ego and its effects, we need to “produce the remedy at the source.” We can do that by learning to let go, and especially letting go of this drive to feel special, with the ego wanting more and more. People who

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Training In Self-Awareness: Step 2: Objectively Examine Your Discontentment

We’ve been speaking about not only the importance of recognizing the ego, and identifying it’s effects in our mind, but about the type of self-awareness that is utilized in Dharma practice to understand it, so we can begin to be free from our ego’s influence. Once we become a little familiar with the ego, and

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Training in Self-Awareness – Step One: Taking Responsibility for Our Mind

What I would like to talk about today is self-awareness – that is, a type of key training in self-awareness – which can be used as a means to become more clear, and thereby able to effectively reduce one’s suffering. Dharma practice is a kind of medicine, a medicine of mind rather than medicine for

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Encouragement for Our Bodhisattva Intention: Part 1 – Being Willing

In the end, our life won’t just evaporate like a puddle of water in the hot sun. In fact, even a puddle of water does not just disappear into nothingness. The molecules remain in a different form, since atoms do not just disintegrate. If we do think that life is like this, then our life

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